Coping with infertility: advice on dealing with difficulties in getting pregnant

April 27, 2015  21:47

When it comes to sharing stories about personal topics, sometimes hesitancy is followed by an opening of the floodgates.

That's what happened when we asked readers to share their infertility stories with us on iReport. They opened up about their personal journeys, but also provided advice for people experiencing infertility, and the families of these couples, as well.

This is what they shared at CNN:

1. Don't give up hope. Although infertility feels like the greatest challenge that can't be overcome, those who reached out to us fortified the belief that there is always hope.

2. You're not alone. If there was a prominent sentiment among more than 200 iReports, it was this one. Don't keep your struggle to yourself. Reach out and share your story with a close family member, friend or, like many of our iReporters, join a support group. It's therapeutic, and it raises awareness. Sharing their stories through blogs or forums has also allowed many of them to connect with one another.

3. Don't be ashamed. Many readers reinforced the idea that infertility is nothing to be ashamed of and not to blame yourself. Don't forget: It's not your fault. This applies to men as well. Others around you who can't relate or don't understand what you're experiencing might make you feel this way, even without meaning to. Don't let them.

4. Focus on your marriage. Infertility can be overwhelming for couples, whether they're just beginning to navigate through appointments and options or enduring a third or fourth round of treatment. It's important to not blame each other if something doesn't work and to remember that you're going through this together. Talk about what you're feeling with each other.

5. Be honest with each other. Some of our iReporters advised that couples shouldn't give up or be discouraged if they meet with failure. Others firmly believed in setting boundaries before embarking on a quest for the right option. That way, if something doesn't work, couples have already agreed on what they want to try and how much they are willing to spend. But the bottom line is, if you refuse to give up or want to have a list of specifics going in, be honest with one another and agree on what's best for both of you so you know when to keep pushing or let up.

6. Get a second opinion. Open communication with your doctor is also important. If you're not completely confident in a doctor's guidance, seek out another opinion to ensure you're making the right decision.

7. Shop around. Similarly, fertility procedures and treatments can be expensive. "Many fertility clinics have open houses during which you can meet the staff, hear about their methods and expertise, and most importantly, get a lot of your fertility questions answered free of charge,"iReporter Angela Cannon said. She also recommended keeping copies of your records and conducting your own research.

8. Allow yourself to grieve. Whether it's a failed treatment, a miscarriage or an unexpected challenge, it's OK to grieve, our readers wrote. Allow yourself time. Even if it means removing yourself from certain social situations that might seem painful for a little while, respect yourself and your emotions.

9. You can start over. Whether it's allowing yourself to consider a new option or reaching a point of acceptance, many iReporters shared the sentiment that not achieving the desired result is not the end.

10. Don't put your life, or your marriage, on hold. Embrace hobbies, allow new passions into your life, pursue something you've always wanted to do.

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