When it comes to sex, it’s rare to stumble upon someone who doesn’t want to boost their sex life, including those who consider themselves to be a “Don Jon” in the bedroom. While new romances tend to spur some hot, and fiery intense moments of passionate lovemaking, this fire can quickly start to go out over time as sexy lingerie. Whether you’re looking to rekindle a flame between you and your partner, or just want to polish up your sex skills, it’s time to let your inhibitions run loose with these best-kept secrets to having the best sex ever.

1. Leave something to the imagination

While busy work schedules can keep us away from our partner for a minimum of eight hours a day, it’s important to keep the fire alive even while being physically apart. “They can send romantic and sexy text messages, and e-mails to each other during the day,” said Dr. Fran Walfish, psychotherapist in Beverly Hills, Calif. to Medical Daily. These messages serve as friendly reminders of how much you’re sexually attracted to them, and how you appreciate their physical and internal beauty.

A simple “I love you” is effective, but a real moment of eye contact and mutual appreciation, can make a difference between a bored “love you,”. Couples can even try to engage in early morning sex to get their morning started on the right foot. This can encourage partners  send messages to each other about their risqué morning quicky. A study conducted at the Sydney IVF Clinic in Australia found frequent morning sex can improve sperm quality, and even improve fertility in a woman. 

2. Spend at least one day a month away from your partner

Couples who have separate lives, or do things independently have the opportunity to miss each other, and actually appreciate the time they spend together after a brief, or short time away from each other. A 2013 study found a night away from your partner can improve the amount of sex in a relationship, as partners tend to convey more energy, and less feelings of stress about problems at home.

3. Talk in the bedroom

Couples should communicate their sexual needs and wants to each other in the bedroom. Men are better than women when it comes to asking for their bedroom needs and wants to be fulfilled. This is due to a generation and cultural thing as women were previously taught to be the homemakers, cook, and clean, and do their duty in the bedroom, while men brought the pay check home.

4. Try something new together

Couples who have fallen in a rut, or into a predictable routine need to shake things up in, and out the bedroom. Lesli Doares, a marriage and family therapist in Raleigh and Cary, N.C., advises couples to go on vacation, and spend lots of time together outside of the bedroom. This will translate to more fun when they get back to the bedroom.

Although counterintuitive from the previous piece of advice, Walfish toldMedical Daily, when it comes to getting out of a rut, “use your fantasies and shut your mouth.” “Do not share your fantasies with your partner.” This can stimulate rivalry, and jealously. She added, “'if you want to screw the NFL, halleluiah and cheers, but don't tell your husband!” When it comes to sex, put all your worries in a box, lock the box, and leave it outside the bedroom. “Free yourselves to enjoy the moment,” Walfish said.

5. Decorate your bedroom purple

Whether purple is your favorite color or not, it can do wonders for your sex life. A study done by retailer Littlewoods.com found those who had purple décor, had approximately four intimate encounters a week. Red bedrooms came in second with about three intimate encounters a week. Go ahead and buy some purple bedding, or furniture to have a more active sex life.